Category: long distance relationship

3 Ways to save money for that plane ticket

Paul
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Those Flights are expensive

I’ve flown international and I know how much it can be to buy those tickets to go see your other half.  I’ve even talked about how to buy cheap tickets because you don’t have to buy the most expensive.   If you have never bought a ticket to another place than you are missing out.   People always ask about how to save money to be able to afford that plane ticket.   I thought it was high time to discuss it.   There are many ways to save money or even earn extra money to be able to afford to buy that one plane ticket, but I am going to talk about at least 3 ways that I have learned to do just that.   Each way I am going to talk about is just my way of making or saving money to buy that ticket.

Change Jar!

You would be surprised how much you can save if you keep dropping money into a change jar each night.    If you plan this just right you could save the money for the ticket for the following year.   It can also be used to for the money you might need while you are there in the other country or place you are visiting.   This can be used in conjunction of other ways to save money to buy that ticket.

Side Job or setup a business!

If you are like me, you are constantly trying to find ways to make money to go see your other half.   I make it my point to use my business to make money.   I work on computers on the side and have customers who need me from time to time and I use that money to buy my plane ticket.   It can be kind of hard to find enough work or get enough money from your business but it will also be the easiest way to save even more money to be able to get that ticket.

Sell stuff or give plasma!

Unlike everything else this one seems more like a good way to earn more money for those tickets.   I usually go give plasma to get paid by the process.   You can sell stuff that you might have or know how to do it.   Each way can also help to give you money  and give you a chance to buy those tickets.   You could sell muffins or other foods that you can easily cook to people who might be hungry.  You may need to think outside the box but if you really think about it.   You’d be able to make enough money to buy that ticket.

These are just a few ways that I do to be able to buy those tickets.   Do you have a way that you use to make money for those causes?   Why not leave a comment and tell me what you do to get money?   Maybe you can help others by your comment.

 

 

5 ways to stream videos in a Long Distance Relationship

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You want to watch videos or maybe even movies with your other half and you don’t know how. It can be very hard to watch a movie or show together. Most of the time it can be very difficult to schedule a time together to watch a movie or to video chat together. It’s important to do things together.  Here are 5 Ways to watch videos together.   In the coming months I’ll be talking about how to do it with more effort on one or both persons.   Here though is the simple ways you can watch videos together.

Youtube

Youtube This is the easiest one of the ways you can watch videos. Most of the times you can find videos or movies that both of you can watch. Some videos will be harder to find or watch because of country restrictions. So you might have a hard time finding the right video to watch or can.

There are plenty of videos or movies that might be copyrighted that you can watch together.   Although it will be taken down relatively quickly, so you might need to watch them as you find them just because you never know when it will be removed by Google.

Netflix

I like Netflix because you can watch movies around the world and maybe you can find one that both of you can watch together. There are shows or movies that one of you can’t watch based on where you live. So it might be a little bit difficult but there are good chance that you can find something or some stuff that you can watch simultaneously.

Sometimes you might have to share your account with the other depending on if she/he can afford to do this. You’ll need to know what you can and can’t do with your account and the TOS that Netflix makes clear.  Just be weary of the consequences is all I can say!

Tubitv.com

TubiTv is great because it can be streamed on any device or region.   The main problem with this service is that you will have advertisements and it might be a time difference in movies.   I’ve not really tried this service but I have looked at it and thought to try it out.   You don’t have to share your passwords or account because both of you can have your own account.  Some of the content is sexual in nature and are rated R but you can both view it them at your discretion.

Twitch.tv

Twitch.tv is great for gamer’s and if you like to game together this is great way to watch videos together. I enjoy watching people play Minecraft and this just is kind of nice to see what people are playing.   Some are playing Fortnight and other games that you can enjoy together.   I know some of you are gamer,  this is why i suggested this service.   It depends on what you do with your other half.

This service can be used around the world so you don’t have to worry about regional selections.

Amazon Prime

Amazon Prime is something I like because you can use it around the world but again you have problems like Netflix where you will either have to pay for the service and give out your account information to the other person.  I’m not sure about the TOS for Amazon Prime.   So you will have to search thoroughly and see if it will work for you.   The good news is that you if you are married or getting married you might not have to worry about the TOS.   The Bad news is that you pay $12.99 per month or 119$ per Year in the US and it can be a different price in other regions.  So it can be very expensive for some people who are struggling to pay bills.

Each one of these services might require you to sign up for their services or pay for their service.   So there is that issue as well as what you might need to do to watch videos.   This is however a common problem with streaming services and as such you will have to figure out which service is best for your situation.

Got a streaming service that works for you?  Why not drop a comment and tell others?  Please feel free to share this post and help others with their streaming problems.

The Hard truths of a Long Distance relationship!

Paul
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The in-between days!

I’ve been talking about Long Distances relationships for quite a while. I recently got back from visiting my Fiancee and you must be like me. You are really struggling with all these feelings and some even negative thoughts. Each relationship is different and unique, and no one relationship is the same. I am however going to talk about my relationship in hopes to inspire others that it can be done and to bring positive vibes to others.

Staying active is always a good suggestion in a long distance relationship. ‘What are the hard truths of being in one?’ You are probably asking or at the very least thinking about. We’ve all been there and thought about it. I want to share with you some of my problems and thoughts on the subject.

The Feelings are real!

Sometimes I have to ask myself are these real feelings or am I just in a movie or dream? Each time I am with this wonderfully made woman and I get home it is like a dream. It can be hard to quantify it all but I really can’t. I’ve always had people tell me all these negative things about being a relationship. ‘They will not be faithful!’ or my favorite ‘How do you know you love them?’. Each question has been a struggle for me. For those questions have to be answered internally and thought about in one way or another before we can give our answer to others. One of the hardest truths with any LDR is that you will have people asking those questions and you should be ready to answer them.

No touching!

This one is the hardest for those who have a love language of touch. You will find that you can’t touch each other physically. When one of you is feeling down you can’t do anything but listen, and talk about the problem. You can’t even console or cuddle when you want to. You will have to deal with this all the time while in a long distance.

High Anxieties!

When you are in a relationship you have all these doubts and thoughts. Some of the most common doubts that come to my mind are ‘Are they being faithful?’ or ‘What are they doing while I am sleeping?‘. There are several that come to my mind and I am sure you have some, too. What if’s can be terrifying to say the least. Some of the questions even I am asking about are what happens after we are together? Will she love me or want to be with me after we move in together? Anxieties are higher than normal because you have to make more of an effort to trust that person and push those thoughts out of your mind. No relationship will ever have these issues but they seem to be more relevant because of the distance.

Expensive tickets

Even trying to find the cheapest flights can still be a challenge to even me. You have to save money and come up with the time and expense of traveling to see them. You have to get the days off and if you are like me the travel time just sucks. Even I have struggled in the past with getting enough money together to travel to see my Fiancee.

Loneliness

Even I suffer this from time to time after my visits to see my Fiancee. You have days where you are extremely lonely even when you are with a group of people. You also get very depressed and sad, each time I come back from my visits, it takes time to get back into my old routines. I know my fiancee also struggles with this because she has told me.

Sex

This one is really a struggle for every LDR that I’ve talked to. We’ve all want to have that intimate contact with their better half. It is ingrained into us that we want to have that kind of contact and it can be a hard struggle to have to wait for the next time when you are together. Although, those times the sex is even better because you both want it, that I heard!

Missing them!

Last one, no really! We find that we miss those times together once you get home and it makes you even more sad and want to be with them. I can only suggest that you remember those times together and use them to spur you on to the next visit. No one ever said an LDR would be easy and now I realized even more than that is so true.

At the end of the day, you have to decide what you really wanted and just do it. No relationship is without these questions but most of the time it’s even worse because of the distance. Do you have hard truths that you want to comment about? Why not leave A comment and tell people what is on your mind?

Understanding The Way you communicate in an LDR!

Paul
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You Didn’t see this coming?

You probably didn’t see this coming as you started this long distance relationship. We’ve all been there, saying the same exact thing. LDR’s are extremely hard and can be almost heartbreaking. The idea that you want to be with them and do everything with them. You just got back from your trip to see your other Half and now you are down and depressed or maybe even crying your eyes out! This is what every guy or girl has went through after a visit. I’ve heard from people that it doesn’t get easier over time or some have learned to cope with it. Each person is really different when it comes to this process of keeping a relationship working and surviving the long days and nights without your other half.

The Truth behind Visits!

When I come home from every trip to see my other half for some it’s your Girlfriend or Boyfriend, it’s extremely hard to get back into my routines here because ultimately the problem exists where you just want to be with them rather than you wanting to be apart. Sometimes distances doesn’t make the heart grow fonder but makes it extremely hard. So, what I have to do after each visit is drag myself out of bed and get back to my routines but why do people even start doing a Long Distance Relationship? It all stems from several reasons, you can bet no one really expected to be in one. Some do it because they met one way or another while traveling, or playing games with that person and becoming friends through the process. Anyway it happens, I’ve found most people have a unique experience with an LDR.

Dealing with an LDR

There are a number ways of dealing with the distance, whether you keep really busy or finding other ways to cope with it. You can find many ways to deal with it like communicating daily or I have heard people staying on Video Chat while they sleep. I don’t get that but I’ve heard it in a few of my LDR groups. I am not sure if it is healthy or good idea to do. So you can see that it will be different for each person or couple. I’ve read ways to survive the distance and I believe that it can be very helpful to do some of these suggestions.

Other ways you can survive!

I’m going to suggest even more ways to survive the distance and these are what I’ve learned so far and I want to explain some of this and try to help those who have been there and done that. It can be extremely hard not go from one extreme to another.

  • Boundaries — setting boundaries can help prevent some arguments or problems. I’ve had arguments with my other half because she did stuff that shouldn’t or they get jealous over the little things. Set personal boundaries and say it isn’t OK for some stuff and let’s make the change that is needed.
  • Miscommunication will never go away — Depending on where your other half is in the world. You will find that no matter how long you are with that person apart, you will have miscommunications. It will start to get better because both of you will start understanding each other.
  • Be Slow to Anger — I had to deal with this one, and others. I’ve learned the past few years that nothing you do is worth getting angry with your better half. Learn to see the signs of getting angry and instead start listening even more and trying to see their perspective.
  • Have a realistic Goal(s) — each one of you should come up with your own realistic goal(s) and start doing them. Sometimes these goals can be anything from working harder or getting ready for your next visit!
  • Be open to change — When you started this relationship you probably never thought it would be changing and you to would be all lovey and dovey through the whole LDR. This is simply not true each one of us changes over our lifetime and when you finally close the distance you will see that they may of changed but is it for the worst or for the good. That is up to you to decide.

No relationship will be ever be the same as another or have the same exact circumstances. You will have to go through some bumps and trials in the road. You have a lot of hard work, a lot of sweat, and being apart but it will not be forever. This is what I’ve learned so far after almost 2 years in this relationship. Do you have something to say or talk about, why not leave a comment and tell people what you’ve learned?

The Bittersweet Taste of a LDR

Paul
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The Struggles are REAL!

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The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

I can’t state this enough for anyone who is reading this.   Long Distance relationships are extremely hard.  I could talk about the Upsides to an LDR and even the Downsides of a Long Distance relationship and if you haven’t been in one than this would be meaningless or maybe you can get an inkling of just how hard it is.  Either way, if you are here you either experiencing this or want to know what you are getting into before you go find a girl or boy to be in an LDR.

Each relationship is different and it can because of each others needs.   I love the book the 5 Love Languages By Gary Chapman(Amazon Affiliate) and I suggest this to anyone who might be in a relationship long distance or not because it will help you to understand your needs and their needs or wants in any given relationship.

The Touch is the hardest!

For those with the need to touch and be touched.   This is extremely difficult because it is a basic need of our human experience and needs.  You may not know how hard it is if touch is low on your 5 love languages but others might be high or why higher because they want to feel the love from their partner.   Sometimes the first meeting is all about that touch because you might of been talking to them for months or even years and ant to feel them to connect to a higher level.   That is normal for those starting out on this long distance relationships.

Communication is crucial!

51bwjxunfnlWhether this is your first relationship or several, most people don’t communicate as well as they should and that can be another bittersweet problem.   You learn to communicate even more than ever before.   You learn to talk about your feelings and wants to them in ways you never thought you would.   This is really difficult to those who never have done this and it’s a real learning experience to those who want this to be their last relationship.   If you are going into this relationship expecting it to fail than you might as well just leave now and not even try.

You try Harder than a Normal relationship!

You will find out that you will work harder with this relationship than if you had them down the street or in your area.   You will find that you have to work at this one because of the distance.   They will have anxieties, need reassurance, or know they are loved and you will want that some time also. Each time you talk to them you will find out even more about them you probably ever did with the relationships locally.   You probably know their likes, and dislikes and have talked to them constantly because of the distance factor.   You probably already know them better than you have ever imagined.

You must be Creative!

You will find that you will be more creative in how you try to be with that relationship.   You will want to watch videos on Youtube or maybe some other service like Netflix.   If they are international than this will be harder.   You can watch movies and shows from a service like Rabb.it but I find it is harder to do it.  Sending post mail from time to time with themes is another good way to be creative.   You can search youtube or the Web and find out others ways to be creative.

It can be expensive but I have already talked about that in my previous blog post.   You can save money if you know when to buy the tickets and stuff for flights but I won’t get to much more into that one.     These are just a few that I have found that make it so bittersweet, you will have other ones that I might of missed but I am sure it is different for each of us.   I can’t wait to see my girlfriend again.   In the end it’s all worth it.