The Struggles are REAL!
I can’t state this enough for anyone who is reading this. Long Distance relationships are extremely hard. I could talk about the Upsides to an LDR and even the Downsides of a Long Distance relationship and if you haven’t been in one than this would be meaningless or maybe you can get an inkling of just how hard it is. Either way, if you are here you either experiencing this or want to know what you are getting into before you go find a girl or boy to be in an LDR.
Each relationship is different and it can because of each others needs. I love the book the 5 Love Languages By Gary Chapman(Amazon Affiliate) and I suggest this to anyone who might be in a relationship long distance or not because it will help you to understand your needs and their needs or wants in any given relationship.
The Touch is the hardest!
For those with the need to touch and be touched. This is extremely difficult because it is a basic need of our human experience and needs. You may not know how hard it is if touch is low on your 5 love languages but others might be high or why higher because they want to feel the love from their partner. Sometimes the first meeting is all about that touch because you might of been talking to them for months or even years and ant to feel them to connect to a higher level. That is normal for those starting out on this long distance relationships.
Communication is crucial!
Whether this is your first relationship or several, most people don’t communicate as well as they should and that can be another bittersweet problem. You learn to communicate even more than ever before. You learn to talk about your feelings and wants to them in ways you never thought you would. This is really difficult to those who never have done this and it’s a real learning experience to those who want this to be their last relationship. If you are going into this relationship expecting it to fail than you might as well just leave now and not even try.
You try Harder than a Normal relationship!
You will find out that you will work harder with this relationship than if you had them down the street or in your area. You will find that you have to work at this one because of the distance. They will have anxieties, need reassurance, or know they are loved and you will want that some time also. Each time you talk to them you will find out even more about them you probably ever did with the relationships locally. You probably know their likes, and dislikes and have talked to them constantly because of the distance factor. You probably already know them better than you have ever imagined.
You must be Creative!
You will find that you will be more creative in how you try to be with that relationship. You will want to watch videos on Youtube or maybe some other service like Netflix. If they are international than this will be harder. You can watch movies and shows from a service like Rabb.it but I find it is harder to do it. Sending post mail from time to time with themes is another good way to be creative. You can search youtube or the Web and find out others ways to be creative.
It can be expensive but I have already talked about that in my previous blog post. You can save money if you know when to buy the tickets and stuff for flights but I won’t get to much more into that one. These are just a few that I have found that make it so bittersweet, you will have other ones that I might of missed but I am sure it is different for each of us. I can’t wait to see my girlfriend again. In the end it’s all worth it.
