The in-between days!
I’ve been talking about Long Distances relationships for quite a while. I recently got back from visiting my Fiancee and you must be like me. You are really struggling with all these feelings and some even negative thoughts. Each relationship is different and unique, and no one relationship is the same. I am however going to talk about my relationship in hopes to inspire others that it can be done and to bring positive vibes to others.
Staying active is always a good suggestion in a long distance relationship. ‘What are the hard truths of being in one?’ You are probably asking or at the very least thinking about. We’ve all been there and thought about it. I want to share with you some of my problems and thoughts on the subject.
The Feelings are real!
Sometimes I have to ask myself are these real feelings or am I just in a movie or dream? Each time I am with this wonderfully made woman and I get home it is like a dream. It can be hard to quantify it all but I really can’t. I’ve always had people tell me all these negative things about being a relationship. ‘They will not be faithful!’ or my favorite ‘How do you know you love them?’. Each question has been a struggle for me. For those questions have to be answered internally and thought about in one way or another before we can give our answer to others. One of the hardest truths with any LDR is that you will have people asking those questions and you should be ready to answer them.
No touching!
This one is the hardest for those who have a love language of touch. You will find that you can’t touch each other physically. When one of you is feeling down you can’t do anything but listen, and talk about the problem. You can’t even console or cuddle when you want to. You will have to deal with this all the time while in a long distance.
High Anxieties!
When you are in a relationship you have all these doubts and thoughts. Some of the most common doubts that come to my mind are ‘Are they being faithful?’ or ‘What are they doing while I am sleeping?‘. There are several that come to my mind and I am sure you have some, too. What if’s can be terrifying to say the least. Some of the questions even I am asking about are what happens after we are together? Will she love me or want to be with me after we move in together? Anxieties are higher than normal because you have to make more of an effort to trust that person and push those thoughts out of your mind. No relationship will ever have these issues but they seem to be more relevant because of the distance.
Expensive tickets
Even trying to find the cheapest flights can still be a challenge to even me. You have to save money and come up with the time and expense of traveling to see them. You have to get the days off and if you are like me the travel time just sucks. Even I have struggled in the past with getting enough money together to travel to see my Fiancee.
Loneliness
Even I suffer this from time to time after my visits to see my Fiancee. You have days where you are extremely lonely even when you are with a group of people. You also get very depressed and sad, each time I come back from my visits, it takes time to get back into my old routines. I know my fiancee also struggles with this because she has told me.
Sex
This one is really a struggle for every LDR that I’ve talked to. We’ve all want to have that intimate contact with their better half. It is ingrained into us that we want to have that kind of contact and it can be a hard struggle to have to wait for the next time when you are together. Although, those times the sex is even better because you both want it, that I heard!
Missing them!
Last one, no really! We find that we miss those times together once you get home and it makes you even more sad and want to be with them. I can only suggest that you remember those times together and use them to spur you on to the next visit. No one ever said an LDR would be easy and now I realized even more than that is so true.
At the end of the day, you have to decide what you really wanted and just do it. No relationship is without these questions but most of the time it’s even worse because of the distance. Do you have hard truths that you want to comment about? Why not leave A comment and tell people what is on your mind?
