It’s really hard!
So you got into a long distance relationship and you are struggling? So now you are wondering how you will not be so negative all the time. It truly can be very hard for anyone to be apart from that one person who makes you smile and makes the world of difference in even the simplest activities. I know in my current situation this is the case.
My girlfriend and I met in December and I came back and felt lost and down because I already missing her terribly.
We had a great first meeting of 9 days and I wouldn’t change a thing. The problem is quite clear to me and others that you now have to get back into your routines. All the while you are wishing you could go back and hold their hand or kiss them, or even just their smell next to you.
I know the longing that accompanies being in a long distance relationship.
Write down your thoughts!
I started this blog for that one reason. I had to down my thoughts and be an example to those who might be having Trials and Tribulations! If you want to stay positive tell that person how much they mean to you and keep a journal or send them cards from time to time. They maybe going through some rough patches just like you and need that reassurance for the same thing as you. They have to constantly fight the negative thoughts and people who are a constant problem in any LDR.
Video Chat as much as possible!
This one can be hard for some because of their schedules but you need that face time with that special someone. I try to do that with my girlfriend as much as possible. Some recommend not doing that everyday but each relationship is different and you will need to decide just how much you can do it or if you want to limit your time talking to him/her. If you can’t Video chat all the time then set a schedule on when you will do it and make sure you keep that schedule but remember you must be flexible enough from time to time because of emergencies or stuff that happens from time to time.
Set the next meeting!
This one is most important to me because each time you visit you have to decide just how soon you want to return to see them. If they can come to see you then that is also good but understand that some people can’t afford to travel because of Visa’s or even having children. Don’t expect them to contribute just as much as you are doing. Make a plan and stick with it, even if it’s not the most desirable idea or plan. You may get there and see the world through a different perspective. Go ahead and buy that ticket that way can start saving for other things for your next trip. I’ve heard buying your ticket on Tuesday mornings will cheapest and the price will change. If you must watch how much you spend then buy it.
Listen to positive Music!
This is my go to when I am feeling down and about. I turn on Pandora or Spotify and I listen to music that brings me closer to her or uplifts me when I need it. If you aren’t into music, I would recommend getting some exercise and doing stuff with friends and family. Either way this helps keeps me from getting to depressed and lonely.
That’s it for me!
Even though this is a small list of things that you can do to stay positive in a long distance relationship this at least helps to move you in the right direction and hopefully to closing the gap and being with them forever. If you have ways to keep positive why not share them in the comments section and help others who might be struggling!
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