The Beginning of my LDR!

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Trust is KEY!

Being in a long distance relationship can be very hard.   I will say that I have been in one for over 6 months and each day is very hard.   The First thing you must learn is that you need to build the trust of the person.   Talk about yourself and be absolutely open to the idea that this might actually be a thing.   Be completely truthful to them even if it hurts to open up like that.   I learned this the first week of getting to know my girlfriend.   Let’s begin by talking about who this woman is that has my heart.

We will start discussing this in full in my next blog post!

Happen chance meeting

We initially met on OkCupid, and we started talking back and fourth on OkCupid.   We sent messages and started to see there was something special about each other.   She has kids and I had kids but that help strengthen our understanding of each other because we both knew how kids were always going to be a relationship dynamic in our current situation.

We started to get serious and she wanted to close her OkCupid account and just focus on us to see where it goes.   We went from OkCupid to Whatsapp which allows us to video call and talk to each other a little more securely.  We started video chatting about a week into talking on WhatsApp.

The first video I was so nervous and I think she was too.   After the first video chat, I knew she had my heart even just a little.

Nothing is Easy!

The problem with meeting someone on the internet is that you never really know who they are until you are willing to share pictures and video with them.

Some people have a really hard time with video chatting because they have so many insecurities and that can bring about problems in the long.   So you have to decide what you are willing to do and what you want out of the relationship.

  • Can you do a long distance relationship or is it to much for you?
  • Do you need touch them?
  • Can you survive with just texting, video chatting, and pictures from time to time?
  • Can you trust them completely?
  • How do I build trust?
  • What’s my next step in this Long Distance Relationship?

These are the questions that you first have to answer and resolve in any relationship!  If you can’t answer these questions then you might not be suited for a long Distance relationships but I know it will be worth it in the end.

How much is your identity really worth to you?

Paul

Identity is Everything!

I’ve been talking about this my whole life about security and you but it seems it might of happened to me.   I am sending off my information snail mail to Equifax to get my mail version of the Credit report!

If it wasn’t for Lastpass and their Free Credit Monitoring that you get with your 12$ a month subscription to their lastpass Mobile service.  I was alerted earlier than I ever thought possible.   Almost as soon as it hit the credit monitoring services.  I am so glad I took the option of having them monitor my credit report for me.   It reminded me through pop ups and push notifications on my phone and tablet.

Identity theft and you!

It can happen to anyone and at any time.   I found out that I might be a victim and I put a Credit Reporting Freeze on my account on Equifax, Experian, and Transunion.   It only cost me 15$ on all three credit bureaus that prevent it from going any further than that!  I also went with LifeLock (affiliate link) to help protect my identity for 10$ a month.   Currently I am going to offer peope a 30-Day Free Trial + 15% Off 6 Months LifeLock Service with code SHAREASALE15S30 (affiliate link) to encourage you to keep your identity safe.

I will be talking more in depth on what to do if your identity is stolen, but first I have to fix the problems I have and see if I can make it even better for myself.   This post will not be long but the ones that come up with be more in depth on how to avoid this misfurtune fro yourself!

How to tell if that Match.com account is fake. (From Personal Experience)

Paul

Julia on Match.com : https://flic.kr/p/c3Uio

On Average — 1 in 10 is fake!

I joined Match.com (affiliate link) and signup with the three month membership.  I must say it was nothing I was expecting. Me and this lady online started talking on their in under a day we switched to the Google Hangouts and have been chatting for the past week at least on and off.   I’ve been loving the talks, and we have talked about everything from sex to secrets in dating!  I’ve been up front about almost everything that wasn’t to personal and we are finally going to meet in the next few weeks.  Even though Venturebeat talks about one in ten profiles are scams.   I do not like scams or for that matter and I try to avoid them at all costs!

How to defend against Scammers!

There are ways to find out if that profile or that picture is possibly a scammer.    I will say that even these techniques are not a 100% guarantee and you will have to ultimately make your own decision on if that person is actually real or fake.   If you take my advice you’ll be far more likely to find the real account and keep yourself from getting hurt.  Although again, it isn’t going to be 100% perfect, you could still find those scammers who are more diligent in their scams.   

Details are everything!

If you find a match on Match.com (affiliate link), Zoosk, eharmony, or OkCupid.   You will need to do several things before you email them or chat with them.  

 

  • Search for their Pictures  — Download or find the link to their picture on the dating site and do a reverse picture search on sites like Tineye.com, Bing, or Google.  These are the three you should start first and try other sites that have similar abilities.  
  • Profile search — Copy the whole text of the profile and search Google and Bing and see if you find other profiles with the same text in either whole parts or over 50% of the same text.   Even though it could happen it is unlikely that the profiles would use the same exact wording and styles.
  • Self Employment — if the profile says they are self employed then that is another mark on the profile and you will have to be careful.   It doesnt’ mean that it should be disqualified all together but it should make you keep on the look out for them asking for money.   

 

Most of the time, these are the red sirens in the mind that should go off if you do come across a profile that is questionable.   If you find two or more of these that are on other sites or same site with different name and profile.   You can bet that it could very well be a dating scammer.   Only way to know for sure is time.

 

The Chat sessions!

If by chance you found someone who doesn’t have any of these 3 things going on with their profile.   You should start talking to them but you need to do these steps until you finally meet!

 

  • Picture exchanges — if they send you new pictures you have never seen before, you should go back and find the most likely photos that might be used on other and see if those pictures come back with hits to other sites.   It not be as bad as you think but it should be kept a constantly making sure the person is real.
  • No money — Tell the person after you get to know them your stance on not giving money to them or anyone else until you have physically met them.   Even then you should be cautious after the first meeting because they could very well be scammers.   Again only time will tell.   If you throw out this to the scammer, they will stop talking to you because they know they are wasting their time on you.   It is a good way to weed out the fakes accounts from the real ones.  The ones that are really will understand not try to get any money from you.
  • Be Honest — Be honest with yourself and them about your goals and what you are wanting from the relationship can help determine if they are truly meant for you or some other person.   If you try to hide these things, then you will not succeed in finding that perfect match.

 

If you follow these simple steps, your less likely to be scammed and thus you are will have a much enjoyable eperience in your dating endeavor.   Nothing is set in stone with these steps but I am sure these will help you in finding your perfect mate for life and help you avoid those scammers!

Why blogging personally helps me! (5 Insightful tips for Blogging)

Paul

The Art of Blogging — mkhmarketing (http://mkhmarketing.wordpress.com/)

Why I blog!

When I started blogging in the 2007, I never really got the idea of what a blog is and what it was designed for.  For that matter, I didn’t even understand the dynamics of how to keep my blog writing.   The idea of researching, and working my blog was as foreign as to me as dating.   I haven’t dated very much in the past and I know that being nervous is something you have to expect.   It’s like the body is preparing for a fight or flight, when you have nothing to worry about.   Blogging is something that is an outlet for me.   It’s like a pressure valve that I can release steam if I am under to much pressure.  

Journaling and my Thoughts!

Since I can ever imagine, I’ve been one of the ones to love to journal and put my thoughts on the page.   It is something that not everyone can do or even accept.   Some people think that doing a blog is making yourself more public.   I tend to agree on the stance that once you start blogging your becoming a public figure.   It isn’t something that people can comprehend but it is something that must be accepted.  Acceptance is something that is required by everyone, because if you can’t accept that.  Firstly, people will be looking at your blog post in detail and judging you on the merits of the blog posts.  This can be very frustrating to some, and others like me simply smile and keep blogging.

Some useful Insights!

Since I having been blogging for over 7 years, I would of thought I would give you some valuable insights on blogging!  Each of these isn’t set in stone but can be a valuable tool and reference to keep people coming back to your blog!


Nothing Set in Stone — Even though your starting to blog you have the right to change or move your blog to anyplace you see fit.   That being said, if you do not learn from how your visitors feel about a certain setup of your blog.   You’ll know based on how they do not stay long or amount of people who come in the first place!  

Find your Niche — Even though it seems like a constant reminder, it isn’t something that you need to figure out.   If you do not, you will have people come and go without actually having people stay and want to build a community!  Like Me, My niche is basically Cell Phones, and Android Operating systems.   Anything to do with Google Android is what I like to talk about it in one way or form!

Add personality — If you you aren’t going to be warm and inviting for each reader that comes to your site, then your wasting their time and yours.   They want that connection that drew them to your site in the first place.   If anything you should welcome them in one way or other to your site and make it so they want to keep coming back.   It takes 7 times before a reader decides to stay or go, so you have 7 times to make it inviting and create an community.

Build upon stories — I’ve done this in this post and others, talking my experiences and adding personality.   Guest of every nationality like to hear stories and just about anything that revolves around the niche you trying to build upon.   So I am sure you have stories that can be used with your blog idea if you just stop and relax!

Money isn’t everything —  When I first started blogging, and I knew it was going to be hard to instantly start making money.   So I just put the idea to the side.   I developed the community and my niche first and then you can start learning to make money around your niche.   You should not expect to make any money in the first year if that.   I think that is a good rounded answer.   It just depends on how hard you work on your blog and how many readers you get to come to your site.   Keep in mind that what you promote should be something you believe in and not what others believe in.   If you take a personal responsibility on that, you have a much greater chance of making money.  Don’t expect it to come over night that is for sure!

If you follow these 5 tips, your be more happier and bring in even more readers and followers to your blog.   Nothing comes without hard work and understanding of the people or things that you talk about.   So if you put your heart into your blog, you can bet it will be a success no matter the real outcome!

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My Chromecast Experience, a Tech review of it!

Paul

Suggest Retail Price 35$

Disclaimer: All Links on this post are affiliate links, I believe in this product and fully recommend it to my friends and family.   If you have a problem with these links please do not click on the links!

 

Chromecast is Amazing!

I got my Google Chromecast from RadioShack, but you can also buy the Chromecast from Best Buy, and Amazon.com (Affiliate Link).  Which is where you could possibly get it cheaper than I did.  I paid the full 35$ for mine because they had it there ready for anyone to buy. You will need a Television W/ HDMI Inputs (Affiliate Link) to be able to use this device and I must say it works really well once you have it configured.  

Some Specs for you:

  • Supports Netflix, YouTube, HBO GO, Hulu Plus, Pandora, and Google Play Movies and Music mobile apps as well as select content through Chrome browser, works with recommended modem
  • Box includes Chromecast, HDMI extender, USB power cable, and power adapter
  • Easy setup: Plug into any HDTV and connect to your home WiFi network
  • Works with Android, iOS, Chrome for Mac, and Chrome for Windows
  • Stream online video, music to your TV using your smartphone, tablet, or laptop; Available for Windows computers running Windows 7 or higher

Portability is Excellent!

I was able to move the Chromecast from one room to another and not have to worry about setting up the device again.   You can stream movies that you buy from Google Play to the Chromecast and be able to watch it on the big screen.   From even my small cell phone,  I can stream movies to the Chrome cast with ease.  I have been using my Acer 200 10.1 Tablet to stream to the Television.  You can however use any device that has the Chromecast app on it like the IOS and even Chrome.   I could even use my Chromebook to stream whatever I want to the Television.  As long as you have the Chromecast extension and have it setup properly, I see no major problems.

Setting up the Chromecast

The process of setting up the Chromecast on your devices were simple and quite pleasure.   The only hitch that I came in was the downloading of the updates to Chromecast.   That took the most time.   It took me around 10 mins because of my connection to the internet.   If you have a faster connection it could be faster or slower depending on your internet speed.   You can name your chromecast anything you want and yo really do not need an internet conenction to stream to the device.   If your like me downloading movies and then watching them when you get home, this is an excellent option for those who want to watch movies on the big screen.   For 35.00$ (29.99 Right Now) (Amazon Affiliate Link), It was a bargain for me.   You really do not need an internet connection do watch movies you purchase on Google Play store and or Music.   You just need to have the App and the Chromecast device.   I found I made the best purchase possible, for the money!   You really should try it yourself.