The Beginning of my LDR!

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Trust is KEY!

Being in a long distance relationship can be very hard.   I will say that I have been in one for over 6 months and each day is very hard.   The First thing you must learn is that you need to build the trust of the person.   Talk about yourself and be absolutely open to the idea that this might actually be a thing.   Be completely truthful to them even if it hurts to open up like that.   I learned this the first week of getting to know my girlfriend.   Let’s begin by talking about who this woman is that has my heart.

We will start discussing this in full in my next blog post!

Happen chance meeting

We initially met on OkCupid, and we started talking back and fourth on OkCupid.   We sent messages and started to see there was something special about each other.   She has kids and I had kids but that help strengthen our understanding of each other because we both knew how kids were always going to be a relationship dynamic in our current situation.

We started to get serious and she wanted to close her OkCupid account and just focus on us to see where it goes.   We went from OkCupid to Whatsapp which allows us to video call and talk to each other a little more securely.  We started video chatting about a week into talking on WhatsApp.

The first video I was so nervous and I think she was too.   After the first video chat, I knew she had my heart even just a little.

Nothing is Easy!

The problem with meeting someone on the internet is that you never really know who they are until you are willing to share pictures and video with them.

Some people have a really hard time with video chatting because they have so many insecurities and that can bring about problems in the long.   So you have to decide what you are willing to do and what you want out of the relationship.

  • Can you do a long distance relationship or is it to much for you?
  • Do you need touch them?
  • Can you survive with just texting, video chatting, and pictures from time to time?
  • Can you trust them completely?
  • How do I build trust?
  • What’s my next step in this Long Distance Relationship?

These are the questions that you first have to answer and resolve in any relationship!  If you can’t answer these questions then you might not be suited for a long Distance relationships but I know it will be worth it in the end.