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3 Ways to save money for that plane ticket

PaulFebruary 18, 2020

Those Flights are expensive

I’ve flown international and I know how much it can be to buy those tickets to go see your other half. I’ve even talked about how to buy cheap tickets because you don’t have to buy the most expensive. If you have never bought a ticket to another place than you are missing out. People always ask about how to save money to be able to afford that plane ticket. I thought it was high time to discuss it. There are many ways to save money or even earn extra money to be able to afford to buy that one plane ticket, but I am going to talk about at least 3 ways that I have learned to do just that. Each way I am going to talk about is just my way of making or saving money to buy that ticket.

Change Jar!

You would be surprised how much you can save if you keep dropping money into a change jar each night. If you plan this just right you could save the money for the ticket for the following year. It can also be used to for the money you might need while you are there in the other country or place you are visiting. This can be used in conjunction of other ways to save money to buy that ticket.

Side Job or setup a business!

If you are like me, you are constantly trying to find ways to make money to go see your other half. I make it my point to use my business to make money. I work on computers on the side and have customers who need me from time to time and I use that money to buy my plane ticket. It can be kind of hard to find enough work or get enough money from your business but it will also be the easiest way to save even more money to be able to get that ticket.

Sell stuff or give plasma!

Unlike everything else this one seems more like a good way to earn more money for those tickets. I usually go give plasma to get paid by the process. You can sell stuff that you might have or know how to do it. Each way can also help to give you money and give you a chance to buy those tickets. You could sell muffins or other foods that you can easily cook to people who might be hungry. You may need to think outside the box but if you really think about it. You’d be able to make enough money to buy that ticket.

These are just a few ways that I do to be able to buy those tickets. Do you have a way that you use to make money for those causes? Why not leave a comment and tell me what you do to get money? Maybe you can help others by your comment.

5 ways to stream videos in a Long Distance Relationship

PaulFebruary 10, 2020

You want to watch videos or maybe even movies with your other half and you don’t know how. It can be very hard to watch a movie or show together. Most of the time it can be very difficult to schedule a time together to watch a movie or to video chat together. It’s important to do things together. Here are 5 Ways to watch videos together. In the coming months I’ll be talking about how to do it with more effort on one or both persons. Here though is the simple ways you can watch videos together.

Youtube

This is the easiest one of the ways you can watch videos. Most of the times you can find videos or movies that both of you can watch. Some videos will be harder to find or watch because of country restrictions. So you might have a hard time finding the right video to watch or can.

There are plenty of videos or movies that might be copyrighted that you can watch together. Although it will be taken down relatively quickly, so you might need to watch them as you find them just because you never know when it will be removed by Google.

Netflix

I like Netflix because you can watch movies around the world and maybe you can find one that both of you can watch together. There are shows or movies that one of you can’t watch based on where you live. So it might be a little bit difficult but there are good chance that you can find something or some stuff that you can watch simultaneously.

Sometimes you might have to share your account with the other depending on if she/he can afford to do this. You’ll need to know what you can and can’t do with your account and the TOS that Netflix makes clear. Just be weary of the consequences is all I can say!

Tubitv.com

TubiTv is great because it can be streamed on any device or region. The main problem with this service is that you will have advertisements and it might be a time difference in movies. I’ve not really tried this service but I have looked at it and thought to try it out. You don’t have to share your passwords or account because both of you can have your own account. Some of the content is sexual in nature and are rated R but you can both view it them at your discretion.

Twitch.tv

Twitch.tv is great for gamer’s and if you like to game together this is great way to watch videos together. I enjoy watching people play Minecraft and this just is kind of nice to see what people are playing. Some are playing Fortnight and other games that you can enjoy together. I know some of you are gamer, this is why i suggested this service. It depends on what you do with your other half.

This service can be used around the world so you don’t have to worry about regional selections.

Amazon Prime

Amazon Prime is something I like because you can use it around the world but again you have problems like Netflix where you will either have to pay for the service and give out your account information to the other person. I’m not sure about the TOS for Amazon Prime. So you will have to search thoroughly and see if it will work for you. The good news is that you if you are married or getting married you might not have to worry about the TOS. The Bad news is that you pay $12.99 per month or 119$ per Year in the US and it can be a different price in other regions. So it can be very expensive for some people who are struggling to pay bills.

Each one of these services might require you to sign up for their services or pay for their service. So there is that issue as well as what you might need to do to watch videos. This is however a common problem with streaming services and as such you will have to figure out which service is best for your situation.

Got a streaming service that works for you? Why not drop a comment and tell others? Please feel free to share this post and help others with their streaming problems.

How to Cope with being in LDR!

PaulJanuary 16, 2020

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Distance is Hard!

Every day you are talking with your girlfriend or boyfriend. It’s hard, lonely and even downright depressing. I’ve been experiencing this since I left her a few weeks ago. You get depressed and start missing them because you were so happy together and thinking about how nice and great it was to be with them or something like that. Each person is really different so I am sure it is different for every person. I figured I would write about my experiences and help with the distance who might be experiencing these things!

Constant Sadness

After the visit with your girlfriend or boyfriend, you will be sad and maybe even need to cry. It can be quiet hard to get out of bed and start the lonely routines that you had before you he/she came and now you are wondering how do you get through it.

Create Goals — I’ve found creating goals can be a tremendous help with fighting the Sadness and putting your mindset on something.
Find friends — Another good way to get past the constant sadness is finding friends to talk about this because you won’t feel so lonely.
Schedule the next Trip — If you can start thinking about the next trip and keeping your mind positive is very important in an LDR.

These are just a few that I can think of right now but I am sure if you are looking for more ways to cope with the distance you can google it.

Other ways to Deal with it!

Now before I talk about this, I am no doctor so do this at your own risk. I know it helps me so I thought I would at least mention these and let you decide if you want to try this. I strongly recommend you talk to your doctor before you try some of the the herbal remedies:

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Ashwagandha 450mg — I’ve been talking this for the past few weeks and my mood has been generally better. So you can try it yourself.
Gaba 750mg — This is a naturally produced in the brain and an Amino Acid. It helps to calm my mind at night but I also have been using it in the morning due to the LDR. So it works really well for me from being moody!
L-Theanine 200mg — It can be found in any sleep formula but I also like to take this at night to help with my sleeping because you know how your mind likes to keep you awake. This one is really good also for LDR but should be used at night only.

These are what I do to help with the who Long Distance sadness and missing her but I am sure there are even more things you can do to get through those long periods of not being together physically! If you have tips and tricks and want to share just leave them in the comments section. Remember to subscribe to my blog for even more stuff about LDRS!

What not to say to couples in an LDR!

PaulMarch 20, 20191 Reply

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Assumptions are everywhere!

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When you get into an ldr, it is really tough. It comes with highs and lows and even sometimes people like to assume too much! What I mean by that is really simple. Most of the time when someone finds out that I or my Girlfriend are in an long distance relationship, we get asked certain questions all the time. Most of the time they revolve around certain expectation or notions. I’m here to set some of the records straight about these speculations.

It’s not about the Money!

I or my Girlfriend always get asked in one way or another about money. Am I sending her money or is she getting money from me? It’s sometimes a slap in the face because I’m not an ATM or is she wanting me to be that. People who are in an LDR, are not in it for the money but for much more than money. They are looking for that one person who completes them or compliments their personality. That isn’t saying that there are few, select groups of people, who are in it for the money and trying to get it from unsuspecting individuals. You have to be watchful of those and know when to walk away and when it’s not really a viable long distance relationship.

The VISA angle!

There are a number of people who always ask is my Girlfriend moving here or come here to get her VISA. While it might be a reason to have an LDR it isn’t the case that she’s doing this for the VISA to get into a better country that she can make more money from. Most of the time when you meet someone who just makes you a better person, You don’t care about that. If the relationship they or you will most likely move to to be closer but it doesn’t always mean it’s going to be the female to move. I’ve seen males move to be closer or to close the gap so to speak. If they really want to be with you then that will be the deciding factor and let’s not forget about in any relationship there will be compromises. That’s the nature of a healthy relationship.

It won’t Last!

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This one really gets me going when it comes to people speculations, and assumptions. Most of the time people will say this not trying to be mean but it tends to come across that way with me and others. I’m sure they mean well and aren’t trying to be that way but it usually does annoy me or other people in the LDR. It even goes so far as close family members saying that. Although I haven’t had this happen to my family members it seems to be make me think they are hopeful it won’t continue. It usually starts showing in peoples faces in the beginning of the relationship and then you hear them say stuff like “don’t get to emotionally involved” or “Don’t love them to much” because they are worried about you getting hurt. I get where they are saying this and trying to be helpful but it can still make the person feel like you are saying it won’t last. Please don’t do that, it does nothing to help the situation.

How can you be in a real relationship?

Most of the time the question pops up from people who have never been in an LDR and only think it is all about being physical with their partner. Although this is an factor in any relationship but with a LDR it is even more harder to be physical with your partner when you only see them a few times a year and even then it’s for short period time. It’s not all about it but more about commitment, communications, and knowing what you want. It’s not the individual fault that they deduce that it is impossible because they may need to be more physical. Don’t take what they say to heart because of it. Just know that you have to be the one to decide if you can or can’t do an LDR. It’s just best to say “Bless your heart!” whenever someone says something like these and just smile!

As always, if you like what you read and want to share this on facebook, or some other social media network, I encourage you to do just that. Got any stories you want to share with other people about what people say when they find out you are in a Long Distance relationship please feel free to comment and help others know they aren’t alone when it comes to these types of comments, questions, or assumptions.

Staying Positive in a long distance relationship!

PaulMarch 5, 20191 Reply

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It’s really hard!

So you got into a long distance relationship and you are struggling? So now you are wondering how you will not be so negative all the time. It truly can be very hard for anyone to be apart from that one person who makes you smile and makes the world of difference in even the simplest activities. I know in my current situation this is the case.

My girlfriend and I met in December and I came back and felt lost and down because I already missing her terribly.

We had a great first meeting of 9 days and I wouldn’t change a thing. The problem is quite clear to me and others that you now have to get back into your routines. All the while you are wishing you could go back and hold their hand or kiss them, or even just their smell next to you.

I know the longing that accompanies being in a long distance relationship.

Write down your thoughts!

I started this blog for that one reason. I had to down my thoughts and be an example to those who might be having Trials and Tribulations! If you want to stay positive tell that person how much they mean to you and keep a journal or send them cards from time to time. They maybe going through some rough patches just like you and need that reassurance for the same thing as you. They have to constantly fight the negative thoughts and people who are a constant problem in any LDR.

Video Chat as much as possible!

This one can be hard for some because of their schedules but you need that face time with that special someone. I try to do that with my girlfriend as much as possible. Some recommend not doing that everyday but each relationship is different and you will need to decide just how much you can do it or if you want to limit your time talking to him/her. If you can’t Video chat all the time then set a schedule on when you will do it and make sure you keep that schedule but remember you must be flexible enough from time to time because of emergencies or stuff that happens from time to time.

Set the next meeting!

This one is most important to me because each time you visit you have to decide just how soon you want to return to see them. If they can come to see you then that is also good but understand that some people can’t afford to travel because of Visa’s or even having children. Don’t expect them to contribute just as much as you are doing. Make a plan and stick with it, even if it’s not the most desirable idea or plan. You may get there and see the world through a different perspective. Go ahead and buy that ticket that way can start saving for other things for your next trip. I’ve heard buying your ticket on Tuesday mornings will cheapest and the price will change. If you must watch how much you spend then buy it.

Listen to positive Music!

This is my go to when I am feeling down and about. I turn on Pandora or Spotify and I listen to music that brings me closer to her or uplifts me when I need it. If you aren’t into music, I would recommend getting some exercise and doing stuff with friends and family. Either way this helps keeps me from getting to depressed and lonely.

That’s it for me!

Even though this is a small list of things that you can do to stay positive in a long distance relationship this at least helps to move you in the right direction and hopefully to closing the gap and being with them forever. If you have ways to keep positive why not share them in the comments section and help others who might be struggling!